I am with Squid. I haven't read all the posts but we have 42fter which is great but cost us $200k and now owes us $400k and I did a lot myself. Just to antifoul every second year you are looking at $2000-3000 and things such as mooring fees , haulout , rigging is expensive for that size of boat. it is also a lot of boat to handle short handed. Bigger is not necessarily more seaworthy either in fact I think smaller boats are probably stronger because of the scale - take Swirly World only 17ft I think and has been right around NZ and twice across the Tasman.
I would go the Cav 32 - we had one a